Sorry for the ramble but I’m just brain-dumping everything relevant that I can think of to update you.
Today Eira was due to have an appointment at the hospital but did not feel well enough to go this morning, so we have two appointments arranged together for tomorrow. She really doesn’t want to go and we have no faith that it will be of any use but it is also all the hands-on help and advice we have here, so we will take her.
She is still recovering but had a bit of a down day today- she says she feels sad and doesn’t know why, which of course is understandable- she is getting cross for reasons she can’t explain and then getting sad immediately after 🙁 We’ve explained that this is totally OK and she can be as cross or sad as she likes, and that it is ok and normal to feel that after such a shock and injury, and that in time those feelings will fade.
We were advised not to let her go on any screens for at least the first week, which we didn’t, and then to reintroduce them slowly, but they seem to have an adverse effect on her at the moment so we are trying to keep them to an absolute minimum- this is tricky as it’s not fair if the other two watch TV so they have to come off screens too, and then we have three kids in a small apartment to entertain, while trying to keep it quiet and non-stimulating. When Esmae and Elfie go out without Eira, Eira gets upset, so we’re juggling it all as best we can. A local shop sells knock-off Lego sets so we got an easy one this morning which is a quiet activity that doesn’t use much thought, and we’re doing watercolour painting, drawing and reading books to them. I took the opportunity to show Eira Picasso’s work while we were painting and she thought the painting style was really funny.
Last night we had a very strange moment as Eira was drifting off to sleep. We haven’t been to church in a good while for various reasons but just before she dropped off to sleep she suddenly said, “Mum, I know what I want to be when I grow up – that person at the front of church who talks.” I asked her why and she said, “I want to teach people how to be loved.”
The accident and the earthquake have, hopefully understandably, again raised questions for us about the nature of life, God, existence, prayer, love and goodness etc and I would be lying if I said I was in a peaceful place about it right now, but I thought the fact that she wanted to teach people how to be loved was pretty stunning.
Both Esmae and Eira are asking a lot when we can go back to England, and Patrick and I didn’t have time today to get together and make a short to medium term plan because two days after Eira’s accident his phone died so he had to go and sort it out in Denpasar.
Mum is feeling exhausted, unsurprisingly. She is also processing how the accident happened and is feeling extremely upset and angry about it- I think this is a process we are all going through at different stages and, as they say, “the only way out is through.”
We have been hearing more about the effects of the recent earthquake on Lombok and the Gili islands and the situation there is dire. Over 200 people lost their lives with hundreds more injured and thousands reported to be homeless. Tomorrow Patrick or I will head to a nearby store and pick up medical kits to send over to Lombok on a truck that is leaving our town tomorrow evening. We can imagine the horror of what people are experiencing there and it is something no one should have to go through- we have been overwhelmed with kindness and generosity and we want to pass this on. It is very hard knowing which fundraisers are legit here so buying the stuff here and sending it over makes the most sense, and we know that people are in need of medical supplies- they are using strips of cardboard as splints in the makeshift hospitals.
On a hopefully heartwarming note, I just wanted to tell you about someone who we have never met who gave an incredible donation to us yesterday. I honestly thought it was an alias for someone and could not understand what was going on, but he contacted us today and it turns out that a few years ago his friend had a similar injury in Cambodia and had to be medically evacuated. He said to Mum today that back then he wasn’t in a position to help and so when he saw what happened to Eira he wanted to help. We have been stunned by the kindness of family, friends and complete strangers, and it is really heartwarming and uplifting to see so many people just radiating goodness and love.
I will update tomorrow about Eira’s appointment and how she is doing. Thank you everyone.